Some Notes:

The English language has no gender-neutral pronouns. So when the words man, he, him, etc are used, they mean "Generic human being" unless the context specifically says otherwise. Only women get words devoted just to them.

Thou, Thee, and Thine are singular pronouns. You and Your are plural in the 16th Century English the King James Bible was translated into. This actually makes the message clearer than our habit of using "you" as both a singular and a plural.

In many scriptures I have changed the King James (English) spelling to American spelling (labour=labor, for example. I understand those in England still spell it with a u). Also, in some scriptures I have changed the "-eth" to a simple "s." Spelling standards weren't set in English until the mid 1800's, well after the translating of the KJV. So I see no problem with making these simple changes that don't affect the meaning of the scripture but make it easier for our modern mouths and ears to deal with.

Exodus 20- Commandment #5: Honor Your Parents



12 Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the I AM thy God gives thee.

Deuteronomy 5:16 Honor thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God has commanded thee, that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God gives thee. 

Deuteronomy 27:16 Cursed be he that sets light by his father or his mother. And all the people shall say, Amen. 

Leviticus 19:3 Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father, and keep My sabbaths. I am the Lord your God.

Leviticus 20:9 For every one that curses his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he has cursed his father or his mother; his own blood shall be upon him.


Exodus 21:15 And he that smites his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.

Exodus 21:17 And he that curses his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. 

Proverbs 30:17 The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures.

Proverbs 20:20 If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.

Deuteronomy 20:18 If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have disciplined him, will not listen to them:

19 Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out to the elders of his city, and to the gate of his place;

20 And they shall say to the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice. He is a glutton, and a drunkard.

21 And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. This is how thou will put evil away from among you. And all Israel shall hear, and fear.

Proverbs 23:22 Listen to your father who begot you, And do not despise your mother when she is old.


This is the only command that gives a reason to keep it. If you build society where children honor parents it will survive. If you build a society where children don't honor parents, it won't.


Though the Bible commands spouses to love each other and Christians to love each other, and us to love our neighbors, this commandment does not command us to love our parents. Not all parents are worthy of love.

But the Ten Commandments does not command us to honor anyone else. Our parents deserve our honor just because they are our parents.

Parents are how we learn to recognize moral authority. They are "god" to us when we are small. The attitude we form towards our parents when we are little is usually the attitude we will have towards God as adults.

Totalitarianism in all its forms seeks to break the bond between parent and child first. It moves that allegiance towards the government instead of parents.

So the best antidote to tyranny is for society to focus on children honoring their parents, protecting that bond. (Many believe, in fact, that this is the greatest damage done by our government schools; they replace the family with the school/state, the parent with the teacher, and siblings with peers. The very act of enrolling a child in a "traditional school" destroys the God-designed family).

And children with both a mother and a father are less likely to get in trouble with the law when they grow up or to engage in premarital sex.

The Bible clearly tells children to obey their parents, but everyone is to honor them.

It’s not the same thing.

We are to be respectful to our parents for our entire life. We are to bring honor to their name and take care of them. And certainly, in most cases, we should seek their council as those with more experience and wisdom than we have.

Ephesians 6:11 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.”

But when we become adults and, especially, when we marry, we form a new family that we are the head of. We answer directly to God, not to our parents. We are to obey Him.